Polyamory, Kink, and Queer Identities
I know that in navigating the world as a queer person, it can be challenging to find the right fit in a therapist. Whether you identify as non-binary, trans, genderfluid or anywhere on the spectrum outside the dominant narrative, it's critical to talk with someone who gets it. When it's time to further explore a facet of your identity, sexuality or relationship, you can feel safe expressing yourself with me as you are, without your therapist assigning your struggles to your lifestyle or identity. I counsel sex workers, people in polyamorous or other multiple-partner relationships, and participants in kink or BDSM lifestyles. When you walk into my office, you can rest assured that you will be met with compassion and non-judgement.
Whether you're a couple or multi-partner constellation, I can help you identify and heal problematic dynamics in your relationship. I see healthy and fulfilling relationships as key to the well-being of individuals and communities. While focusing on strengths and possibilities, we can break negative cycles and discover deeper connection. You can have a safe, healthy and fulfilling relationship, in which sexual and emotional needs are expressed in ways that feel deeply nourishing. While integrating multiple disciplines, I rely heavily on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) when working with relationships.
Contemplative Psychotherapy is rooted in the belief that all people are born with the wisdom they need, known as your “brilliant sanity.” As your therapist, I can help you uncover this rich resource and tap into your innate wisdom, promoting healing and improved well-being. With a decade of experience in meditation and mindfulness practice, I integrate Buddhist philosophy with modern Western psychology, bringing present moment awareness into our time together and focusing on our relationship as the tool for healing. While Western psychology often focuses on diagnoses and symptoms, Contemplative Psychotherapy views the effects of past trauma and emotional challenges as the barriers to accessing your internal wisdom and its healing potential. Together, we aim toward awakening the self as it fully is, complete with its pain and challenges, and its brilliance and beauty.
“The human being has an inbuilt propensity toward self-realization. If obstacles are removed...the individual will develop into a mature, fully realized adult, just as an acorn will develop into an oak tree.” —Irvin Yalom
Together we will discover the obstacles that keep you stuck in a cycle of pain - and your ability to remove them.
Group Psychotherapy provides a unique opportunity to view ourselves through the lens of our peers, which can be a powerful and transformative experience. We practice communication strategies and develop a deeper understanding of ourselves in relationship to others. Members experience meaningful changes in their lives from the shifts that occur within therapy groups. These also provide an excellent way to participate in affordable, long term treatment that can sometimes be even more effective than individual therapy. Please contact me for more information on fees and scheduling of groups.
“Usually we regard loneliness as an enemy. Heartache is not something we choose to invite in. It’s restless and pregnant and hot with desire to escape and find something or someone to keep us company. When we can rest in the middle, we begin to have a nonthreatening relationship with loneliness, a relaxing and cooling loneliness that completely turns our usual fearful patterns upside down.” —Pema Chödrön
Individual sessions cost $110 for 50 Minutes. Relationship sessions cost $130 for 50 Minutes, and $195 for 80 Minutes.
I have limited spots available for adjusted fee services for people who cannot afford to pay outright or borrow funds. Given the limited number of spots, and the great amount of people in need of therapy, I work hard to ensure that adjusted fee services are offered appropriately. You may be asked to provide proof of income in order to be considered.
Payments can be made via cash, check, credit card
(VISA, MasterCard, American Express, or Discover), HSA card (Health Spending Account) or PayPal.
I do not work directly with insurance providers, accept insurance, or file claims for insurance reimbursement. However, I am happy to provide you with a super bill for you to submit to your insurance company/healthcare plan (e.g., out of network, flexible/health spending account, etc.) for possible reimbursement.